A.S. Thorne

Look—I love a good grilled hot dog and overly patriotic playlist as much as anyone. Here in the U.S., the 4th of July is our Independence Day—a time for fireworks, cookouts, and pretending it’s not 400 degrees in Texas. There’s something nostalgic about watching the sky light up while holding a melting popsicle and trying not to get sunburned.

But as much as I love celebrating freedom, I also think it’s worth pausing for the kind of freedom that doesn’t come with sparklers or cookouts.

The kind that looks like safety.
Like healing.
Like learning that your body is your own—even when the party’s loud and everyone’s got red, white, and blue beer koozies.

Because while the 4th of July is a celebration for many, it’s also a tough time for others—especially survivors of trauma, veterans, and those who live with PTSD. Sudden noises. Crowded spaces. Alcohol-fueled environments. It can be overwhelming, disorienting, even dangerous.

So let me offer this gentle reminder:

✨ Consent still matters—yes, even at barbecues. That means no unwanted hugs, handsy pool games, or pressuring someone to “just relax.” Independence means autonomy. Full stop.

🐾 Your pets are not into fireworks. They don’t care that it’s America’s birthday. More dogs go missing on the 4th of July than any other day of the year. So please—keep them inside, safe, and snuggled.

🧠 PTSD is real, even if you can’t see it. Whether someone’s a survivor of war or interpersonal violence, the pops and booms we love so much can feel like anything but celebration. Be kind. Be aware. And don’t take it personally if someone skips the party this year.

🎇 And finally—freedom looks different for everyone. For some, it’s the courage to wear shorts for the first time in years. For others, it’s saying no. Staying home. Taking up space without apology. That kind of independence deserves fireworks too.

So this 4th of July?

Grill the burgers. Light the sparklers. Toast to freedom.
But also—check in on your people. Watch out for your pets. Respect boundaries. And hold space for the kind of healing this holiday doesn’t always talk about.

Because real freedom isn’t just about what we celebrate.

It’s about who feels safe enough to stay.

❤️
A.S. Thorne